Ok, confession..... I did not know my clitoris is the size of a penis and made of erectile tissue until I was in my 50's and came across artist Sophia Wallace and her Cliteracy project on the internet. It immediately made sense, because rubbing on my labia and above my glans in my pubic mound always felt extremely pleasurable. It takes a woman 20 - 30 minutes to become fully engorged, according to the literature. I'd add that's from a cold start. A woman aroused by her partner will be already engorged just thinking of that person. The vagina also gets engorged. We women are indeed mysterious, even to ourselves. I've longed to discover my body, and I used to think I needed a relationship partner for that, but after 4 years single I realized I am responsible for my own self discovery. I cannot rely on anyone else to discover me :)
I don't let men grope me by my glans anymore. Now I explain all this to them, and they're always so appreciative. Men just want to please us, but if we don't know our own bodies, how can they?